Tall Skinny Guy Problems

Clothes don’t fit. If pants fit at the waist, they’re too short. If they’re long enough, they’re too wide. If a jacket fits your shoulders, the sleeves are too short.

If you’re really skinny, your alcohol tolerance is low. (This gets better as you gain more weight.)

Furniture isn’t designed for you, so you never quite feel comfortable in a chair, at a table. This is especially frustrating with public transport.

If you’re bony, it hurts your butt when you sit. It hurts your back when you lie flat on the ground, or you sit in a hard-backed chair. You gotta do some heavy squats to start packing on some meat, but if you’re going to the gym…

Gym challenges. If you’re new to the gym, and you go to the squat rack, the rack is set too low. So you’re going to have to adjust the height. If you’re sharing with somebody else, you’re going to have to adjust between every set.

If you’re tall, doing squats and bench presses are both harder for you than they are for most people, because of the physics of having long limbs. (This is the real reason why olympic bodybuilders tend to be short, and the source of the myth “bodybuilding stunts your growth”).

You hit your head on things more than most people.

You’re likelier to have your lung collapse.

You don’t look very masculine. This has repercussions in a bunch of areas – how other men treat you [1], how attractive women find you.

Center of gravity is very high, meaning you’re easy to knock over.

If you have a substantial height difference with your SO, kissing and hugging is always a bit of a stretch.

Relevant reads:

Why sleep late

What’s the real reason why insomnia is such a thing? Why do ‘ENTPs’ sleep so late? (I need a name for this group of people.)

Superficially, it’s about devices, internet, distractions.

But underlying it I think is the fear of not having time for oneself, the fear of spending all our time and all our life just working (badly), screwing things up, making mistakes and falling short. Life seems relentless and escapism is tempting.

My theory is that it has to do with the silence and appeal and allure of the night. People leave you alone at night.

Todo: Zoom out, see the big picture, make changes, accept discomfort and unfamiliarity (it will hurt less)

Sleeping early -> waking early.

reminder: you make good decisions when you wake early
it’s pleasant to start the day at your own pace
it sucks to have to rush to start the day

Bad sleep

  • Cigarettes – low blood sugar
    • How to quit?
      • stop buying
      • deal with triggers
      • get an app
      • tell friends
  • Screens – Work incomplete / want distractions
    • How to change?
  • Lack of exercise – Tedious / unsatisfying
    • Why? How to change
  • Don’t feel like waking up
    • Why? Life is painful, hard, work, endless obligations
      • Want to get out of obligation debt

Don’t eat late

Visualize your day, visualize going to sleep

change your limiting beliefs about not being a morning person

move your body, get up get out go for a walk

Word vomits

0386 – soooo sleepy – I get rambly sometimes when I’m sleepy.

0215 – why do I not sleep better? I don’t make it a priority. I worry that I won’t have time for myself in the mornings, and so I try to squeeze out as much time as possible at night – often on my laptop or phone, which is a horrible thing that makes things worse. But the devices are symptoms, not the root of the problem. The root of the problem is that I feel like I don’t have enough time for myself. I need to address that feeling. I should experiment with sleeping early for a month – but those experiments have failed in the past because I didn’t have a hard and fast reason to sleep.

0117 – sleep – “I don’t really care for resolutions but I’m going to experiment with a month of sleeping early. (2014 edit: HAH.) I’m starting now to get a running start. I believe it will make me Fitter Happier More Productive. I believe it has worked for me in the past and I believe it will work for me moving forward. I find that when I sleep before 11pm, I wake up earlier AND more well rested. This was most clearly evident during my NS days and during other brief periods.”

0075 – sleepy and unfocused – “Have been a bit sleep deprived or something the past couple of days. Maybe dehydrated too. Wasn’t very productive at work. This is frustrating because I love my work, I should be progressing much faster!”

Links:

What is the real reason we sleep? | Hacker News

How to deal with brain fog

[NeedAdvice] How do you guys deal with brain fog (especially in the morning)?

You just described exactly how I lived from 2012 to 2015 or so. Man, I do not miss those days. They don’t seem that bad while you’re living in them day to day, but when you look back on how the years go by, it’s quite devastating. You are, in a sense, your own prisoner. And you don’t quite fully realize it. You have an inkling of it, which is why you wrote this post, but it’s just the tip of the iceberg.

I notice you didn’t say anything about your diet or exercise. That’s where I started solving the problem for myself. It’s one thing you can change without having to address the more difficult things.

Work out. You need to work out instead of playing Sims or watching YouTube. (Hell, you could go for a walk or jog while listening to YouTube if you really wanted to.) If you can’t get out of the house, a few pushups or jumping jacks a day can make a difference.

Eat healthier. Cut down on carbs. Get more protein and fat. It’ll instantly reduce the fog. Drink plenty of water. It makes a significant difference, and it’s free.

Visualize your future. Wasting several hours time at work is something I used to do too. It’s a sign that you don’t really value your own time, and you’re not properly imagining what your future is going to look like 5, 10, 20 years down the road. Imagine you’re a Sim, and visualize multiple different futures playing out for you. What is your life going to look like if you continue on your current path? What do you need to do if you want a different path? If you had a clear picture of how your current actions are affecting your future outcomes, you’d act differently without even particularly making a big deal out of it.

Screw the Zone. “Takes me forever to physically get in the zone” is partially a sign that you’re probably not exercise enough, and partially a total bullshit excuse. You shouldn’t wait till you get in the zone, you should just work anyway and enjoy the slipstream benefit of the Zone when it arrives.

Seek deeper enjoyment. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to focus on your interests and hobbies – in fact, it’s a necessary part of a happy and fulfilled life. But “I neglect everything else because I simply don’t enjoy it” is quite a warning sign. Because there are unenjoyable aspects to everything. Nothing worth doing is 100% fun 100% of the time. So your avoidance of uncomfortable, unenjoyable things is keeping you from living a more full, enjoyable life. Your enjoyment is currently stuck at a superficial level. Again, I think you do sense this subconsciously.

It’s possible that you’re not going to make any changes for quite some time. It took me years. You really have to feel kind of disgusted with yourself – have a burning platform moment – before you really start changing properly. For me, I think it’s just getting older and starting to feel like I don’t have much time left to dick around. Your mileage may vary.