Solitude

One of the great misunderstandings about MBTI is the idea that having an E– means you’re automatically extroverted in the traditional sense – gregarious, getting energized by social encounters and so on. This isn’t always exactly true.

There’s an interesting quote I once read somewhere about how “ENTPs are the most introverted of the extroverts”. It’s sort of true, if you can get past the vagueness of the terms.

For me personally, and in my understanding of other ENTPs (from reading biographies, etc) – ENTPs are all about connections and ideas. And this is something that can happen amongst people, but it’s also something that can happen in solitude. And I actually highly recommend that every ENTP seeks out some solitude in their life. Because we often get so busy following threads and making connections that we can forget to ask if they’re necessarily the most important connections we should be making.

In practical terms – if we wake up in the morning and look at social media, we’re often immediately hijacked by the impulse to come up with witty responses to things. But is that necessarily the best use of our time? You get the idea.

Similarly, we might get carried away trying to figure out how to participate cleverly in some social group, without first asking if that social group is actually worth participating in.

Solitude is excellent for the ENTP. It helps us clarify what we really care about, what we really need, what really matters. And that allows us to return with a more profound engagement with the people who matter, too. It’s a win-win.

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